We basically follow the documentation here: https://tome.fyi/docs/hosting/hosted-drupal-netlify/
When you run composer require and you get an error like
Could not find a version of package drupal/tome_netlify matching your minimum-stability (stable). Require it with an explicit version constraint allowing its desired stability. then you can use a command like this:
lando composer require drupal/tome drupal/tome_netlify:1.x-dev drupal/tome_netlify_contact:1.x-dev